Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Daily Ramblings: Who are you really?

HBO has had The Brothers on repeat for the last month or so and because I'm just happy to watch any Black movies that don't have Tyler Perry anywhere near them..of course I gotta watch it..over and over a couple times too.

But one of my favorite lines is this one

"Men don't know who they are until they know what kind of woman they want"

OH really...is that it! So do you mean to tell me that a man determines what kind of man they want to be based on what they want in a woman. I've been exploring this in my mind after every time I watch this movie and I'm still not sure about it. Here's why.

On the one hand, I get it......if what we lived in was a Utopian world. Boy meets girl. Boy thinks girl is attractive. Boy develops a friendship with girl. Through countless conversations boy realizes not only is girl sexy and attractive but she is funny, smart, ambitious, a hard worker, and overall the type of girl to take home to mama (cue: The Dream, Album 2, Track 7). Great. Now boy decides that since girl is the one, he will become all that he has the potential to be. Then comes marriage and the baby in the baby carriage. Happy Ending, close the book to the fairytale.

Right? Not so fast.

There are some assumptions in there that are just tooo naive to be taken seriously and without question. In my lifetime ( all of 23 years) I've come across many men who have great women in their lives that are the take home to mama type, yet they are inadequate at making the changes to be the great man that these women deserve. It could be cheating, it could be laziness and a lack of ambition, it could be a bunch of character flaws that they already recognize in themselves but are somehow unable or dare I say it, unwilling to change. If a man doesn't know what kind of man he wants to be until he knows what kind of woman he wants then why doesn't he change...why do women always fight the battle where they are trying to change the men of their dreams ( granted the man thinks as highly of her as she him). What I'm asking is why do men find it so difficult to change for the women they deem to be the one.

If only I could answer that question myself...then perhaps I could save a lot of women the trouble and the heartache.





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Monday, July 27, 2009

My Mind Over Our Matter: "Gaman"

My mother recently asked my opinion on a situation that occurred at work. Here's the scenario, her female coworker is getting married and invited some people in the department to the wedding, even the homosexual man and his partner. He then asked the bride to be if he could have a slow dance with his partner at the wedding. (Not like he wants to take over and have a solo, but if a slow song comes on is it ok for him to get up and dance.) Let me preface this by saying the bride to be comes from a West Indian family. (I believe Jamaican, and they don’t agree with homosexuality… at all)The woman actually told him he could not dance with his partner at the wedding. My mom asked what I thought about it.

Me = outraged. I couldn’t believe that woman had the nerve to tell him no. Come on, if you invite a homosexual to your wedding then you are agreeing to that man and his lifestyle to come, celebrate, and share in your special day. If he can't dance at the wedding then he should not have been asked to come. That's discrimination! Yes, its her day and she has the right to do what she wants, but then…. DON'T INVITE HIM!
My mom thought I was crazy for siding with this homosexual man. She is still very conservative and thinks that this lifestyle is unacceptable especially in public places. She said what if there are kids at the wedding? I say differently, I actually think our generation and the next is becoming more accepting and even promoting this way of living. Is that a good thing? Who's to say? Not me.


With that said, I wonder are we on the verge of a new gender? So far we have men, women, and transgendered, right. I would say I opt for a new gender called "gaman" to represent the gay man of the world. Most people can think of a time when they saw a gay man switching their hips, speaking with a voice like Yvette from Baby Boy and dressed in daisy duke shorts with way too much shimmer showing everywhere else on their body. (Pretty much Lafayette on your sidewalk) Don’t get me wrong I have much love for homosexual and bisexual individuals. I just think gay man are approaching a change in our society and should not have to be subjected to the fallacious definition a man. What do you think? Lets make it happen!
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Friday, July 24, 2009

Music Notes: Jay- Z and friends





sunshine - phyllisia ross ft ne-yo


Im Yours (Remix) - Jason Mraz Ft. Jah Cure && Lil Wayne More After The Break......

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Daily Ramblings: Make New Friends

" I see human beings for just that.. human beings."
Sometimes you just have to see color. I do not get it when people say they don’t. It would make for a boring world if there were no color and no definitive language to separate us. In order for me to appreciate the flower and the sun I have to see it as being different from me. I see its beauty in being a magical creation that is nothing like what I am. I try to see the world this way. Every experience I have with people I try to see them for who they are.
I think the hippies pinned the tail on the donkey. Why do people want to make war, start arguments, develop new gangs? All of it seems obviously negative. I propose some people have a bad attitude gene! That must be what causes people to get upset and angry instead of relaxing and being happy. I can not stand it when I go home to NY and "women" are still under the impression they can not talk to a girl outside of their click because "I don’t know that girl, and she don’t know me." It makes absolutely no sense. Women talk to men they don’t know all the time and half of the time those end up being terrible conversations, with the man just trying to get something from her, whether its her name, her number or the time. On the flip side women wouldn’t dare take the time to converse with another woman. As if making a new friend let alone small talk would somehow betray your homegirls. Women grow up. Just because a woman smiles at you it doesn’t mean she wants to make a life long friend out of one head nod, it doesn't mean she is a lesbian and wants to feel you up and it certainly doesn’t mean that she wants your man. More After The Break......

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Blog Post of the Day: Non-Spades Playing Black People

Dang it.I knew not being able to play Spades was gon catch up with me eventually..oh well. Its time to learn cuz Im not giving up my Black card.

A snippet:

“All I need is a partner to play Spades with the cards up, all trust,” ~Jay-Z, Excuse Me Miss …

Dear Black People Who Can’t Play Spades:

cc: Black People Who Can’t Play Dominoes

Soledad O’Brien will host CNN’s Black In America 2 on Wednesday night. She will again explore the depths of blackness that far too few know or care to understand. She will compel some, make others cry and expose the tomfoolery that is the police officer who arrested Skip Gates “post-racial America.”

Yet, there’s one place I’m certain she won’t go, one stereotype I’m sure she’ll leave untouched because it’s one most every black is proud to claim. It has nothing to do with fried chicken, watermelon or Kool-Aid, Martellus.

No, it’s our undying love for the card game Spades. Forget ABCs. Card suits are the first thing most black parents teach their toddlers once they’ve said “mama” and “dada.” But notice how I keep italicizing the word “most.” Yes, there are a few grown black folks who can’t play the game, and we frown upon your shenanigans.



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Thursday, July 16, 2009

Buzzworthy: Jay-Z's Book Deal

Because we're Jigga fans over here at ORT...we have to mention this.

Jay has reportedly signed a book deal that will have him explaining some of his most famous rhymes from songs spanning his hugely successful career.

Check out the full article here.

In the meantime..vibe to this. One of my faves.

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Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Music Notes: T Swift & T-Pain Really?





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Monday, July 13, 2009

Buzzworthy: True Blood Season 2 Episode 4

I'm way too much of a True Blood Fan to not post this.

Last night, ( and this morning for me cuz I watched the episode again like I always do) Lafayette did this dance after Eric gave him some of his thousand year old blood and boy did Lafayette's body respond to it.



Apparently what Lafayette was doing has a name and was only the tip of the iceberg. Thanks to MissInfo.....Take a LOOK-seee

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Saturday, July 11, 2009

Buzzworthy: Camron and Mase Comback!

Well Well Well.




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Thursday, July 9, 2009

Buzzworthy: Beyonce "Sweet Dreams"







FIERCE. Enough Said. More After The Break......

Buzzworthy: ATL Housewives Drama



I can't wait for the hot mess to begin.... More After The Break......

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Buzzworthy: Real Men Talk Real Rap

The Game disrespects Jay-Z.

Jay-Z is not concerned with The Game.(and rightfully so)
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Daily Ramblings: Delusions of grandeur

Lately, I've been having the same experience over and over and not by way of deja vu either. Here's how it always seem to go down..I'm on facebook or twitter or some Internet enabled site and I come across someone who I know who I perceive to be no different from me doing something amazing. Like the quiet dude I went to college with that was written about in the NY times and his accomplishments in the article were amazing. Or the other dude ( party boy at that)that I went to college with that just published his own book which is currently for sale on amazon. I could go on and on ( and right now due to how I feel I'm gonna stop here) but you get the picture.

All of the aforementioned...prompts me to ask myself..what the heck are you doing? seriously. I'm intelligent..a hard worker..goal oriented...attractive...ambitious..I could go on and on..Still even with all of that...I really haven't done anything with myself. At this age..I've managed to accomplish a high school graduation, a college graduation and a 4.0 for the 1st year of grad school. Funny thing is for some people that's enough. But for me..I'm not impressed...overachiever? perhaps...but the thing is, I know where I want to end up yet I think and do the same ol same ol in the same box that everybody gets a go at..


I'm thinking maybe its time to start not only dreaming big...but crazy...people with crazy dreams get laughed at..but they also 9 times out of 10 make it...the crazier the ideas I come up with..the more I'll know I'm on the right path because I want big things for myself..I want to leave a legacy when I leave this earth and that means...I can no longer live an unexamined life...I'd better get it together and put some of my crazy delusional dreams into action..I'd better get to work.

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"If I look at my most vulnerable places and acknowledge the pain I have felt, I can remove the source of that pain from my enemies' arsenals." -Audre Lorde More After The Break......

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Quote This!



"Ever since I was born, daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine, and I just wanted to say I love him so much."

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My Mind Over Our Matter: The Human Experience

Are you in love with your mate indefinitely? Is the choice to love according to the right person or is it the right time? You always hear people say I found that special someone, never is it…. I found that right time! In certain instances, it could be that the special person arrived at a right time, so that makes the person and the time "special."What if you have known that special person for a long time but only decided to be with them when you two were ready, hence the right time? Then the question that still remains is… Is it the person or the timing.

Most people our age, or should I say women want that fairytale romance so badly that it may blind them from their true human experience. For example when Carrie met Big on Sex and the City , of course...She dropped her things out of her purse (including a condom hahaha how embarrassing) and there he was to help her pick them up. Her special someone? Their special time? Who knows…
I would argue that what's important is not him being her savior. He was not there to be her Knight in shining armor, he was there to be the man Carrie needed to complete her. Carries human experience was that she was looking for love everywhere, in turn looking for a man everywhere. Big was the man she a woman found and fell completely in love with. She loved his voice, his aura, his body, his hair, his mind, his soul, all that made him Big (no pun intended).

Often times, we configure these romanticized scenarios of how we want our lives to be. Either we alter some facts that we truly experienced or we live our lives hoping for the Cinderella story that stuck with us since childhood. In my efforts to not sound like a complete cynic, I want to assure you that I believe in the power of love, but only when it is true love and not a forced manipulation of its beauty.

I'm remind of a question from the movie The Feast of Love,

"Do you think love is a trick played on us so that we make babies or is it the only meaning there is to this crazy dream?" To that I would answer, it is definitely the latter. It has to be because love encompasses all. It is our passion(as seen in my last post), our loyalty, our family, our friends, our support , our laughs, our dreams; it is everything. I would argue that if you do not think so and you do not experience those aforementioned as love, then you are not living; then you are not experiencing life to its fullest potential.

Back to Big and Carrie , suppose they did not last. Suppose they married and divorced after 6 years. Does that mean they did not love each other? Maybe. Or it could mean that it was their special someone but not their special time, or vice versa.

Most women in their twenties are obsessed with finding their "final relationship." If a woman is 23 and has been dating a man for six years she would be devastated if he ended up breaking up with her for whatever reason. Women develop this tunnel vision for finding their soul mate that they do all that they can to get their man and keep him. I say if after six years and you break up than that’s better than thinking he was right for you the rest of your life. I just wish we could all enjoy what we have while we have it; that’s what this whole life thing is all about. In the words of Alfred Lord Tennyson, Tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.

Are You enjoying your experience or are you yearning for more?
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Inspiration: Define Your Passion



Intrigued by this clip of Mitsuko Uchida speaking on music?

Then I challenge you to define your own passion. What can you talk about/do for hours and love every minute of it?
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Style Snap: Wimbledon 2009



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Congratulations to the Grand Slam Superstar Serena Williams, champion of the Womens Wimbledon 2009. Shout out to Common for encouraging her return to the tennis courts. She was sporting a cute white Nike coat. When tennis and fashion unite it takes the form of Serena Williams! More After The Break......

Buzzworthy: The Thrilla from Wasilla

I'm done with Palin after this..officially. She is a waste of time. Watch the video to see why.

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Monday, July 6, 2009

Daily Ramblings: The Steve McNair Lesson


The death of Steve McNair..most likely by the hands of his girlfriend...though he was married with four kids basically serves to add fuel to my fire. I started on this path with my Sow An Act Reap A Destiny talk but now I can take it even further with McNair's unfortunate death but lesson to us all..

Over on one of my favorite blogs, A Belle in Brooklyn, Belle wrote in the comments section:

I've noticed quite often that men look a cheating as "I was just fucking that girl, I was gonna get right back" (cue Jay-Z) without considering the very real consequences of their actions-- like at the very least the wife's grief, how it could affect the family, the diseases he could bring home to his wife (condoms break and herpes is easily spread with one), the possibility for outside children, and the drama that they are placing themselves and their families in, a wife leaving with half. The repercussions of cheating are far and wide. I'd say just ask McNair, but uh...


In short..I concur but since I don't feel like being short I'm gonna express exactly why I agree. This past fourth of july I had the pleasure of chatting it up with some guys roughly around my age 23/24 and to test out my latest theory that most men ( read: Black men for now) tend to have a disconnect between their real selves and who they think they can be at some point in the near (read: distant future). So men who are rampant cheaters on their girlfriends during college and early 20s assume that in their 30s they will be ready to act seriously and as a result will somehow get rid of all their cheating ways upon getting married to the woman of their dreams (some men can make it happen that way...im gonna say most men cannot). I can't help but wonder if this was Steve McNair's story...but I digress...

I think Belle hit the nail on the head when she wrote:
I've noticed quite often that men look a cheating as "I was just fucking that girl, I was gonna get right back" (cue Jay-Z) without considering the very real consequences of their actions--

But Im not gonna stop at cheating..I'm beginning to wonder how many men really consider the real consequences of their actions not only in the sense of karmic retribution but in what their actions say about their character.While chatting it up with *Blue this weekend on the topic of promiscous cheating men ( male hos in short) he made a comment that he was a hot commodity (i.e. college-educated, doing his thing in the work force, member of a Black Greek org, last of dying breed..etc), better than many Black men out there and as a result many women wouldn't find better than him...HMMM .I thought to myself...SELF..that just doesn't sound right. My response to him...because you have all of that extra stuff that supposedly makes you a commodity..it also results in you being evaluated differently from a "lesser man"..if you know better do better..if you know better and dont do better...what does that say about you...If I stripped away all your education and those things you think make you a hot commodity and compare your character to that of a lesser man in his words......would both men be made up of the same stuff?..should I expect the same things there?..

At the end of the day...your actions not only yield consequences but they speak volumes about your character. Steve McNair's legacy as a football player is still intact but the lasting impression he leaves as a husband and a father leaves much to be desired. I'm not trying to be a man-basher at all...this is a lesson that men and women alike can appreciate..just so happened that the lens of analysis for today came in a male package..Hehehe :-).

Think on it..tell me what you think



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Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face.-Carol Moseley-Braun More After The Break......

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Happy Fourth of July

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Thursday, July 2, 2009

A Well Written MJ Tribute

This was taken from Phonte..in light of recent talk surrounding MJ's death I felt this was a realistic tribute that we all can agree with.

ENJOY!

My Hero Ain't Molest Them Bitch Ass Kids: Phonte's teary-eyed tribute to The King

I haven't been compelled to blog in a long time.

In an era where everybody is twittering and text-messaging their lives away, a well-thought out essay that extends past 140 characters is quickly becoming a thing of the past.

But when our universe lost its brightest star on June 25, 2009, I felt a deep, overwhelming sadness that I haven't experienced in many years and I felt moved to say....something.

My hero, Michael Joseph Jackson, is dead.

Honestly I'm still trying to process it, almost like the loss of a much-loved family member. I mean, hell, to many of us Michael WAS family. Much like Nike, or Coca-Cola, or McDonalds, Michael Jackson wasn't so much a person as he was a living, breathing, American institution; a ubiquitous force that has seemingly existed forever and one that we couldn't imagine a world without. Seeing Michael onstage was less like watching a musician perform and more akin to witnessing a magician at work.

But contrary to his otherworldly stage presence and magical aura, the man we called The King of Pop proved to be a mere mortal. And now my hero, Michael Joseph Jackson, is dead.

What isn't dead, unfortunately, is the cloud of false accusations, unsubstantiated rumors, myths, slander, and outright lies that surround his life and his legacy. The greatest myth regarding Michael Jackson is that he was a pedophile who preyed on young children.




It is my belief now, just as it was 16 years ago, that the charges brought against Michael during his 1993 sexual abuse case were false. The allegations made by Jordan Chandler (the accuser) and his father Evan Chandler always seemed suspect to me for a few reasons:

1. Ask the average parent whether they'd want justice or money for their abused child and more than likely they'd say justice, if for no other reason than to protect their child (and other children) from a future attack. The fact that Evan Chandler was willing to essentially let Michael off the hook for a few million (reportedly 2-3), made their case seem like a well-orchestrated extortion attempt. In regards to the case, Evan was later caught on tape saying, "If I go through with this, I win big time. There's no way I lose. I will get everything I want and they will be destroyed forever...Michael's career will be over." Notice that homeboy ain't mention jack shit about his son. So much for being a concerned father...

2. Generally when victims of abuse come out with allegations against someone, other victims come forward to corroborate their story (i.e. the Catholic Church scandal, where a few parties came forward and it later led to thousands).

Very rarely do child molesters stop at just one kid, or even two for that matter. An alleged pedophile with only two accusers is kinda like an alleged serial killer with only one body. Or an alleged sneaker addict with only two pairs of Jordans in his closet. It just doesn't make any logical sense, nor does it coincide with the recurring psychological characteristics of most people who fall into those categories.

In the case of Michael Jackson vs. the Chandler family, not a single corroborating witness could be found to help prosecute the case and after raids were conducted on several of Jackson's homes, no hard evidence of sexual abuse was gathered.

Michael later settled the Chandler case out of court, not as an admission of guilt, but at the behest of his lawyers and financial advisors who warned him that a criminal trial could cost him millions of dollars in legal fees, as well as the loss of hundreds of millions in touring and endorsement revenue. With the Chandler case finally over, Michael continued to tour and released his greatest hits package “HIStory” in 1995. Ten years later though, he would face another trial that, in my opinion, would be the one to literally and figuratively, kill him.

Martin Bashir’s heinous, Machiavellian documentary “Living With Michael Jackson” aired in 2003. It was in this documentary that Mike (albeit foolishly) talked about his fondness for sharing his bed with children, and was seen holding hands with a young boy. Shortly afterwards the young boy from the documentary, 13 year-old Gavin Arvizo (a cancer survivor who had all his medical bills paid for by Michael), accused him of sexual abuse.

When Mike’s case against Arvizo hit airwaves in 2005, I must admit that I had my doubts. Much like the Chris Rock joke, I too shook my head in disbelief and said “ANOTHER kid!?! Mike, what the fuck?!! How could you be THAT stupid?!?!” As the case unraveled though, the financial motivations of the accuser’s family became much more apparent.

Similar to the Chandler case from ‘93, the prosecution couldn’t produce any credible witnesses to corroborate Arvizo’s testimony against Michael. Many of the prosecution’s witnesses were either former employees of Michael who had financial disputes with him, or had criminal convictions themselves. Arvizo’s testimony contradicted previous statements he’d made to officials saying that nothing ever took place between him and Michael, and Arvizo’s mother Janet Arvizo, an eccentric woman with a prior conviction for welfare fraud, single-handedly killed the case with her flippant remarks on the witness stand and overall bizarre courtroom behavior.

Actor Macaulay Culkin came forward in Michael’s defense and testified that no inappropriate behavior ever took place during their many times together, as did many other associates who had spent time at Neverland. Ultimately, Michael emerged from the Arvizo case with a Not Guilty verdict on all counts, but it proved to be a pyrrhic victory. The damage was already done. In the court of popular opinion, The King of Pop was an unrepentant child molestor.

When defending Michael Jackson against his detractors, I am often asked if I would let one of my sons sleep over at his house. The answer is no. Shit, I wouldn't let my sons sleep over at YOUR house. But that doesn't make you a pedophile, it just makes me a concerned and protective dad who doesn’t leave his kids around people I personally don’t know well enough to trust.

When it came to children, the only thing Michael was guilty of in my opinion, was naivete. While cuddling in the bed with children isn't technically illegal, it does violate several social norms; norms that a man who dresses funny, lives at an amusement park and refers to himself as “Peter Pan” would certainly pay a higher price for breaking. When I hear the tales of Michael laying in bed with those children, watching movies, tickling, and engaging in general horseplay, it sounds less like the work of a pedophile and more like the actions of a man trying to experience a childhood he never had.

During his investigation for the Arvizo trial, Michael was examined by Dr. Stan Katz, a clinical psychologist who concluded that Michael didn’t fit the profile of a pedophile but instead that of a regressed 10 year old, an analysis which I agree with wholeheartedly. I mean after all, only a person with the simple, unsuspecting mind of a child could truly believe they could sleep in the same bed as their pre-pubescent buddies and not pay a price for it.

Still, the most saddening myth surrounding Michael’s life is that he was ashamed to be Black. During the mid 80’s, in the midst of his ever-changing skin complexion and facial features, popular opinion in the Black community was that Mike was a sellout. This was an opinion that would unfortunately haunt him for the rest of his life, but a closer look reveals quite the opposite.

As echoed by my man Scorpeze of the house music duo Windimoto in his excellent blog, Michael Jackson never tried to disown or separate himself from his Blackness at any point in his career. In fact, he was probably the most openly pro-Black pop entertainer of his time. Michael Jackson ashamed to be Black? I mean, this was the same guy who:

-portrayed Black people as kings and queens in ancient Egypt ("Remember the Time" video)
-called Tommy Mottola (his then label boss) a devil and a racist
-sang "white man's gotta make a change" live on the Grammies in '88
-sang about a beautiful African woman in "Liberian Girl"
-featured an African chant at the end of "Wanna Be Startin Somethin"
-donated over $25 million to the United Negro College Fund
-sang "I ain't scared of no sheets" in "Black or White" and upped the ante by morphing into a BLACK PANTHER at the video's end
-wrote a song called "They Don't Really Care About Us," with a Spike Lee-directed video that featured prisoners raising the Black power fist
-uhhh “We Are The World” and USA for Africa, anyone?

What about this man wasn’t Black enough? Was it his battle with vitiligo and how it caused skin discoloration? Was it his excessive facial surgeries, due I’m sure in no small part to the teasing and ridicule he faced about his looks as a teenager?

Why did we turn our collective backs on a man who always reminded us that he never forgot who he was, or more importantly, whose he was?

This essay is my plea to all people who consider themselves a fan of Michael Jackson, but especially to Black people: Don't let them talk about our Brother. Don’t let his naysayers convict him of crimes that were never proven. Don't let people reduce the memory of one of our greatest heroes to that of a weird guy who wore a shiny glove and molested little boys.

When Elvis Presley died, did the media remember him as an overweight, drug-abusing racist who dated a 14 year-old, or was he eulogized as The King of Rock and Roll?

When Woody Allen dies, do you think the media will focus on the controversy behind him marrying his own stepdaughter, or on the films "Annie Hall" and "Manhattan" and how great they were? (Ditto for Jerry Lee Lewis, the rock and roll pioneer who married his 13-year old cousin.)

When people accuse Michael of being a pedophile or a child molester, ask them to provide hard evidence. Ask them to provide an opinion rooted in fact, rather than one based on gossip, hearsay, and conjecture. Chances are, they won't be able to. The Black community has done a great disservice in not reciprocating the love that Michael Jackson showed us when he was alive. The least we can do in honoring his death is ensure that his legacy is remembered properly for future generations.

Was Michael Jackson a weirdo? Of course he was a weirdo.

But maybe if you had been in the public eye since you were 7, had grown ass women throwing themselves at you since you were 13, suffered physical abuse at the hands of your father, watched your father and older brothers engage in sex with groupies on tour as a child, were called "Big Nose" and "ugly" by both family members AND fans, developed a skin disease that took away the one thing you repeatedly expressed your pride for, and spent the last half of your life as the most famous person on Earth, you'd probably be a bit of a weirdo too.

I am not attempting to paint Michael Jackson as a saint, as no man ever lives up to such a lofty title. But to me, the phrase “no good deed goes unpunished” seems to sum up Michael Jackson’s life more than ever.

Why would people try to tear down a man who constantly used his power, money, and influence to help others?

Why would people express such disgust and contempt for a man who constantly sang of love and peace, and used his talent to entertain, uplift, and inspire millions?

Tell em that its human nature, I suppose...

Rest in Peace, Brother Michael. I love and miss you dearly.


Phonte

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"Just as we have had to struggle to rid ourselves of slavish behavior, we must as ruthlessly eradicate any desire to be mistress or "master."- E. Frances White More After The Break......

Late Night Music Notes: Drake's New Video

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Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Buzzworthy: Summer Must-Haves!

Hey Ladies, have you all went shopping for that perfect summer shoe yet? Well if not, have no fear..it's still not too late for some great purchases. One trend that is back in a very chic way are Jelly Sandals! I know, I know..who would suppose that this childhood favorite would make such a fabulous return. I have a pair of Givenchy jellies from last summer and trust me they were worth the steep price of $160. So all purpose and the instant touch of elegance to any casual outfit. I have been deliberating on buying the new ones from this season but there are many other brands to choose from. Marni, Chloe, Fendi, and Tory Burch all have jelly sandals this season in basic and vibrant colors. The perfect addition for any fashionista's summer wardrobe

Find Styles from: Givenchy,Tory Burch,Marni, Fendi,Chloe

PS.. Did i mention most of them are on sale xoxo
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HAPPY B-DAY



TODAY MARKS OUR ONE YR ANNIVERSARY...THE IDEA FOR ORT was birthed today.. one year ago YAY!! More After The Break......

Quote This!

I found God in myself
And I loved her
I loved her fiercely

-Ntozake Shange
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Buzzworthy: 2009 BET Awards

B/C I must....


Jamie Foxx...did his thing..I was impressed with him because he showed what the stuff of a good comedian is made of..simply the ability to take tough difficult and real stuff and make people laugh about it and trust me..I laughed

The performances..Some were hits like the Jackson 5 with New Edition...other performances I just didn't get....like Beyonce (I still love her fiercely)....or Keri Hilson...and Ciara needs never do an intimate set like that again cause she can't sing..Lil Wayne/Drake...uhhh not so much

I did enjoy Maxwell ( take a shower in his sweat for real)...the tribute to the O'Jays...them boyz and Johnny Gill sang...JAY Z ( still showing the young'uns how to do it)...Ne-Yo & Jamie, Jamie and his club hit, Keyshia and Monica though Monica ripped it on Keyshia's song...sorry Keyshia and of course Janet's heartfelt address


Bottom Line:

Sometimes I wonder, if anyone at BET really thinks they're doing a good job at representing Black people on a channel titled Black Entertainment Television...Honestly, even with the added pressure of paying respects to Michael Jackson who passed on days before the show...and even though millions more turned in than ever before..it was not a show that was memorable...neither did it leave me with the impression that I could and should be proud of the small piece of Black culture that was put on display on Sunday night..


I'm beginning to wonder..will BET ever get it..perhaps not. More After The Break......

Music Notes: Glass of Water




Just Because I'm playing this song on repeat. Deal with it. LOL More After The Break......
 
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